βDonβt talk to strangersβ.
That was what my parents instilled in my head when they first brought me to my first day in nursery school. They taught me to never ever talk to strangers because strangers are bad people that may take advantage of me or worse kidnap me. Maybe they had a good reason for teaching me that. When we’re kids, we’re more vulnerable, and we’re still learning how to trust our gut, or maybe they watched too much 6 PM news before as that was their only source of information that time.
But as I grow up, see more the
We never hitchhiked before until 2018 when we started traveling full-time and we found ourselves living in a remote neighborhood in Hawaii. Buses were sporadic and the cheapest, fastest, and most fun way to get around was hitchhiking. Before we thought that getting a ride from a stranger was dangerous. We were scared because we didnβt know the driver and who knows what can happen. We have preconceptions like:
“The driver can steal my moneyβ
βThe driver can take advantage of meβ
βThe driver can attack meβ
But if you think about it, all these can also happen even if youβre just walking along a street or waiting for you next bus. And, you know what, the divers have similar fears.Β They have preconceptions also with hitchhikers and strangers like:
βHitchhikers donβt have money and they might steal from meβ
βHitchhikers might take advantage of me and my carβ
βI cannot trust a hitchhikerβ
Did this happen to you? Were you scared to pick up someone? Or on the opposite, were you scared to hitchhike?
But, from where did all this paranoia come from? Was it because of what our parentβs taught us to not talk to strangers? From what we see in the news or what we heard from other people? Whatβs the purpose of focusing on the one bad experience from others instead of the many great things that can happen?
We are too scared to fail, to be cheated, or to be robbed that we prefer to over-protect ourselves. We donβt want to take risks or put ourselves out there, which limits us from experiencing new things. We play it safe so nothing bad can happen instead of opening ourselves to all the great things that can happen from meeting strangers, learning from their stories, and letting a stranger bring joy to our day and making it extraordinary.
And here, Iβm not only talking about hitchhiking, but Iβm also talking about any experience in our lives.
Are we going to judge all the experiences as bad because of only one bad instance? Or, even worse, are we going to judge all the experiences just because it happened to another person? Are we not going to trust because βsocietyβ doesnβt trust?
Same with falling in love. Every couple starts as strangers. They meet not knowing anything about each other, but thereβs the high and the adventure of trusting and letting your guard down so you trust you gut and open yourself to many amazing possibilities that can happen. In both relationship or hitchhiking, we have the risk of something bad happening to us but at the end of the day, itβs our choice to trust or not, to open ourselves to amazing possibilities or to limit ourselves because of fear.
Weβre not going to lie, every time we hitchhike, we still get nervous. It is an adventure. Weβre exposing ourselves to be rejected. We might meet a fun stranger or not. We don’t know how long we might wait or what can happen. But then, you meet these kind strangers, you hear their stories, and all those nerves disappear. You feel happy that someone was nice to give you a ride. That simple act of kindness makes you return to the basic principles of life. Like trust. When hitchhiking, they trust you and you trust them.
Either hitching a ride or life itself is about trust and adventure. Take the risk, trust your gut! There are more good things than the bad ones, itβs up to us on how we wanna look at it. Trust and enjoy life!
Watch this video. Hitchhiking is an awesome way to practice trust and be open to amazing things that can happen along the way. We hope this encourages you to trust.
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